1.You actually want an actual relationship
It's rare for guys && girls like me. We don't have time or patience for an actual relationship. We just want the parts that are beneficial to us at any given time
2.You want a casual relationship.
This is more likely in most cases. Whether you just want someone to hang out with sometimes or a someone to spend the nights with. Most people are looking for something more in this category...
SO... Why can't we be adults about this? If I like you and you like me... Can we not be up front and honest. Decide what we want and make things work. Stop playing games...
The "hard to get" game gets us no where. It's just annoying, frustrating, && confusing.
Guys...If you don't like commitment... Don't commit! Don't pretend to want commitment. You would be suprised how many girls are looking for basically what you want and all your doing is either scaring them off or confusing them with all your commitment fears.
Girls...Don't compare your new interest to any ex-interest. Let me remind you they are an EX-interest for a reason. No one is the same and if the ex was so perfect you would still be with them today. Move on. Discover why the differences are good && stop comparing. It only leads to more heartache.
And why are we all looking for an "upper hand" in our relationships. We shouldn't control each other. We are supporting each other && especially at the college stage... just having fun! Relax. If you have fun with someone... hang out with them. Get to know them. Date them. Stop makings things SO serious.
So look.... I know this has been a random dump of information but the point is...
People aren't perfect && every relationship at this age isn't going to work but playing games is the easiest way to insure it WONT work. Put a smile. Enjoy your time with whoever it is && COMMUNICATE. Figure out what you both want and most of all....
JUST HAVE FUN!!
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